Monthly Archives: December 2011

Been Very Busy Lately

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I am the type of person that becomes obsessed with an idea once it takes hold in my pea-brain.  That can be a good thing and that can be a bad thing.

I will follow through and research to the point of being ridiculous!  But once I am done researching and following through on my latest obsession, I know enough about the current topic to make an informed decision.

The bad thing is I obsess over the latest thing to the point of excluding all else in my life.  I leave other things to flounder and survive on their own while I chase down information on my latest object of desire.

What is the latest “thing” I am obsessing about, you ask?  Dog training.

I thought at the beginning of 2011 that I wanted to be a Style Consultant because I really like fashion and clothing.  I explored, researched, spent money on, and totally dove head first into that for the first 6 months of the year.  In the end, I discovered that I had spent way more than I ever intended on clothing I “just had to have” and had made zero on the adventure.

I discovered too that even though I really like clothing and fashion, I don’t want to make it my career or life.  It’s way too expensive for my income.  I think the biggest struggle I had with it is that it seemed a little superficial.

I really had to convince myself some days that clothing was really important to your self esteem and confidence.  More important than the War in Iraq or the homeless on the streets or the millions of people that are unemployed.  When the tornado hit my town, I struggled even more with the concept of fashion being really important to me.  I was thankful to just be alive and have my home in tact.  Clothing just didn’t seem all that important any more, but I pressed on with it anyway.

The last Image Workshop that I did, one of the ladies has been unemployed for over a year.  The only reason she has a home is because her grandparents left their home to her in their will.  She came to the workshop and listened to me talk about buying clothing and budgeting for it and how important your image is to getting a job.  Then, when they served lunch, she let it slip out that she had not eaten in 2 days.

That was it.  That was the end of it for me.  Yes, looking good and taking pride in your appearance is very important to your self esteem and confidence.  Yes, you should put effort into looking your best.  However, whether you are wearing the latest trend or a shirt that accentuates your small waist just doesn’t amount to a hill of beans if you can’t eat.

I realized right at that moment that I couldn’t talk myself into making this be more important that it really was.  My heart just was not in it anymore.

As you may know, I have 4 dogs.  I post pictures and talk about them all the time.  I have had dogs in my life all my life.  I put myself through a dog training program.  I have helped many people train their dogs.  I started a program here in Cleveland, TN at the local library for kids to build their reading skills by reading to dogs.  I have never struggled with whether dogs are important or not.  There is no question or ambiguity in my mind that they are very important and relevant.

To me, there is nothing more fun than teaching a dog a new trick or watching a dog’s owner learn how to communicate with their dog and form a stronger bond with that dog.

I have dreamed of having my own training center for years and years.  And I finally have the courage and confidence to take the steps necessary to make that dream come true.  It started off as just calling around to see what would happen.  I figured if I was met with any resistance then it wasn’t meant to be.  So far, there has not been one obstacle placed in my way.  Well, except my own self-doubt and fears of failure.  But as far as location, equipment, money and time – all have fallen into place without a hitch.

So, I am really looking forward to 2012!  I hope to finally be able to relax and enjoy my life by finally being where I am happy and satisfied.

Do you have any big plans for 2012?  Do you obsess over an idea like I do?  How do you manage everything?

Addictions

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Addictions come in so many different shapes and sizes.  My biggest one is food.  My son is currently addicted to XBOX.  My other big one is shopping.  My point is that we all have some kind of addiction to something.

Addictions usually are formed when we find some sort of pleasure in an activity and then allow it to consume our lives.  Even if the joy is short-lived, we try to recreate that feeling over and over again.

Yesterday my son spent 12 hours on the XBOX.  He couldn’t break himself away.  And I have to admit that I was busy and didn’t make him get off the game earlier.  When I finally forced him to get off, he cried out with a desperate plea for help.  It broke my heart!!  Addictions are such a two edged sword – they give us pain and pleasure at the same time.  And sometimes we need help to overcome the need to participate in the activity.

Last night, his solution was to completely get rid of the game.  He wants to sell it and everything that goes with it.  I tried to explain the concept of moderation to him, but he couldn’t understand or grasp that last night.  This morning I started thinking about the nature of addictions.  How some people are predisposed to not be able to do things in moderation.  They are all or nothing types of people. When that is the case, it is very, very difficult to find a middle ground – to act in moderation.  In alcoholic people, they have to remove themselves completely from situations and places and people where there is drinking.

So, I decided that, as a family, we need to figure out what is the best way to work through and handle each of our addictions.  How we can support and encourage one another to overcome and deal with our different addictions.  Wish us luck!!