Addictions come in so many different shapes and sizes. My biggest one is food. My son is currently addicted to XBOX. My other big one is shopping. My point is that we all have some kind of addiction to something.
Addictions usually are formed when we find some sort of pleasure in an activity and then allow it to consume our lives. Even if the joy is short-lived, we try to recreate that feeling over and over again.
Yesterday my son spent 12 hours on the XBOX. He couldn’t break himself away. And I have to admit that I was busy and didn’t make him get off the game earlier. When I finally forced him to get off, he cried out with a desperate plea for help. It broke my heart!! Addictions are such a two edged sword – they give us pain and pleasure at the same time. And sometimes we need help to overcome the need to participate in the activity.
Last night, his solution was to completely get rid of the game. He wants to sell it and everything that goes with it. I tried to explain the concept of moderation to him, but he couldn’t understand or grasp that last night. This morning I started thinking about the nature of addictions. How some people are predisposed to not be able to do things in moderation. They are all or nothing types of people. When that is the case, it is very, very difficult to find a middle ground – to act in moderation. In alcoholic people, they have to remove themselves completely from situations and places and people where there is drinking.
So, I decided that, as a family, we need to figure out what is the best way to work through and handle each of our addictions. How we can support and encourage one another to overcome and deal with our different addictions. Wish us luck!!