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Talk About Embarrassing

Never wear a slip whose elastic has been worn out!

Never wear a slip where the elastic has dried out!

O.M.G.  The other day I was wearing a skirt with an old slip underneath.  I had been having to mess with it most of the morning, but really didn’t give it a whole lot of thought.

So, I am walking through Target on my lunchbreak when something catches my eye.  I look down and much to my chagrin…my slip was down around my ankles!!  Well, being fairly adept at humiliation and embarrassment, I just stepped out of the slip, picked it up, and stuffed it in my purse.  I just kept on walking like nothing happened.

I have no idea if anyone saw my little mis-hap or not, but I did have to chuckle at myself.

Do things like this ever happen to you?  Tell me your stories!!


End of a Rough Year


I don’t know about you, but I have had one hell-of-a-year this year.  Multiple jobs, multiple people in and out of my life, and multiple changes for me.

Let’s just do a quick recap.  At the beginning of the year, I was working with my sister and then chose to go to work full-time for one of our clients up in Aspen.  That turned out to be too much commuting and way too much time away from home. After a few months of that, I found a different job working in an office in Basalt.  Turns out the owner of that company is/was a complete crook. I walked out on that job after he kind of/sort of fired me…but wanted me to stay till the end of the week (so he could scam some more people out of their money…and he wanted me to be there to help).  Needless to say, I did not stay and I did not help him.  I walked out of the office that afternoon and never went back.  Even left a high dollar laser printer behind so as not to ever have to step foot in that place again.

I decided that I was going to go back into full time dog training and pet sitting.  Well, unfortunately, that is still not and never has been a way for me to make a good living.  I cannot support myself or my family on the money I make as a trainer.  I love the work and I am still doing that on the side to make some extra money.

I applied for numerous jobs after leaving the Basalt company.  20, 30 resumes and applications were sent out.  Week after week, nothing.  Then finally a few phone calls started coming in.  After many interviews and 2 job offers, I chose to go with the Real Estate office job.  I had to fight for that position though because I was up against another person that had years of real estate experience, but not the same level of computer skills that I had.  I could really see the potential in the industry for growing and learning and for a real career.  The other job offer I had was working in medical billing and paid $5 more an hour, but I couldn’t see myself being challenged or happy in that position.  This last time, I wanted a job that I would love and stay with for years.  The paycheck wasn’t the determining factor – mainly because the 2 previous jobs paid really well but I was completely unhappy there.

Over the summer, while I was looking for another job, I found myself falling back into old destructive habits again.  Drinking a lot more than normal.  Actually dated a guy, if you could call it that – not sure I really want to get into the details on that one.   The point is, that I went right back to the old self-destructive way of living when times got hard.  My son was very disappointed with me and that really, really hurts.

I dropped by motorcycle at the end of the summer and broke my arm – not so bad that I went to the doctor or hospital, but bad enough that it ended my riding for the summer and fall and significantly interfered with my ice skating and skiing activities.

My Ex-husband remarried in November – that was a little harder to take than I thought it would be.  However, after a little bit of time, I am feeling much freer than I could have imagined.

Really, for every bad thing that happened, there has been a good thing to counter it.  After all the bad jobs, I do have a good one now.  I have a lot to learn in this new industry, but I feel like it is right for me.

Looking for a new job can really make you question your abilities. With all the knock downs of my skill levels and qualifications, I have learned humility and to accept criticism better – although it still hurts like hell and I don’t like being told that I don’t measure up sometimes.  One thing I have always prided myself on is that I do a good job.

I would have to say the lesson for the year has been that I am not all that good at everything and there is always room for improvement.  It really has been a very humbling experience this year.

How has your year been?  What lessons have you learned?

There is always hope.

There is always hope.

Making Your House Your Home


Over to the far left, can you see the tiny numbers hidden behind the tree branch?

Has there ever been that one thing about your new house that makes it not your home?  I found that when I moved into the house in Tennessee, that the mailbox and I had to settle a thing or two.  The previous owner of the house had placed a tiny padlock on the mailbox so the mailman couldn’t leave mail there.  The house had been empty for quite some time before we moved in, so I understood.  Except that I called him 3 or 4 times to drop the key off to me or tell me where I could meet him to get the key… something – anything…  Well, I finally got sick and tired of trying to chase him down so I went to Wal-Mart and bought a set of bolt cutters.  It’s really funny to think about now, but then I was madder than hell that I was being denied access to my mailbox.  I bought these huge bolt cutters that could probably cut through a super huge padlock for this tiny little lock.  But, by God, I was getting that stupid lock off that mailbox.

(Side note:  I know, I get distracted by the dumbest things.  Why didn’t I just go out and buy a new mailbox, you ask?  Because it was the principle of the thing.  And besides, you know you love me because of my little eccentricities – HA)

Anyway, once I was able to get into the mailbox, I was also able to say that this is MY home now.

So you might be asking yourself, “What is the thing about the new house that has stopped me from saying it’s mine?”

The house numbers.  Yes, that’s right.  The address numbers on the front porch.  The first time I saw the house back in October 2012, I thought about those numbers being too small and there was a tree branch hiding them.  So I have thought and imagined and schemed and planned to fix this little problem.

First, I knew I needed bigger numbers, so I went to the local hardware store, Mr. T’s, and bought some 6 inch black numbers.  At first I thought I would just screw them on to the larger middle post on the front porch, but then I thought that was too boring.

Second, I asked my brother-in-law if the Aspen Valley Harley Davidson had any spare pallets that I could have.  He delivered those pallets within a couple of days to me – way before I was ready to use them.  I am sure my neighbors are wondering if I am some kind of hoarder.  I am not, I assure you.  I just take my sweet time in completing my projects.

Third, I went to Pinterest for ideas on how to take apart that pallet – Ha!!  hahahahaha!!!  I tried the crowbar tool I had left over from putting in the laminate floors in the house in TN and a hammer.  That lasted about 5 minutes, tops, before I realized that the post was right – those pallets are meant to last and put up with abuse.  They do not come apart easily.  So the next best tool came out, the saw!!  I just cut the boards I needed out of the pallet and decided to use that size because it worked so well.  Again, I am sure my neighbors think I am crazy.  They may be right.

Fourth, I assembled the boards into a sign, painted it the same color I painted my mantel and side cabinets (which I haven’t shared with you yet because the cabinets are not mounted on the wall…still).

Fifth, back to Pinterest to find out how to paint letters on the sign.  This technique worked to a point, but I had to improvise a little bit because the pallet wood was very hard and was not easy to make indentations on it.  So, I went to the sewing supplies and pulled out the dressmakers marking paper.  I placed it, color side down, on the board, then placed my printed words on top and traced the letters.  After I was done with that, I used a black Sharpie to draw in the outline of the letters.  I did that, just in case the marking paper marks got wiped off.  Then I painted in the letters.

I sprayed the whole sign with a clear coat protector and added the 6 inch numbers.  I added a couple of heavy duty picture hangers to the back and hung it on the front porch.

Now, this is MY home!!

Not very fancy, but it's mine.

Not very fancy, but it’s mine.


And yes, I know it is not square – that’s the point. I don’t want perfection, I want me.

Walking Challenge Update #1


At the 40 mile marker

I apologize for taking so long to update my progress on the walking challenge.  I have been so busy with traveling and finding a new house and then organizing and packing everything up.

So, to date, I have walked a total of 40.90 miles.  Not as far as I would like to be, but still making progress.  I have walked a total of 81,806 steps.  Every 2,000 steps counts as 1 mile.

Since I found a house in New Castle, CO, instead of Silt, CO, I got to subtract a few miles off my original total.  Now I only have to walk 1487 miles – HA!

Only 1446.10 miles left to go!  Wish me luck!

Have you picked a destination to walk to?  Share your progress with me!  I would love to hear how things are going.  Do you have any tips you can share to make the walk easier or more interesting?

Funny Story


Have you ever made plans with someone?  You decide the time and the place.  You even confirm with them that your still on for your plans.  And then find out that it is not the person you thought it was.

That is what just happened to me.  I was pleasantly surprised by who I had made plans with and we all had a great time.  I thought I was making plans with a friend from Chattanooga.  I couldn’t understand why she was inviting me to a blog meeting this evening in East Ridge, when she was supposed to be meeting me in Cleveland at the same exact time.

I went with the plan and showed up at the designated place and time and waited for my friend.   To my surprise, two other friends came in. They came on in and sat down at my table and started talking and ordering.  Well, you can image my surprise.  Here I am thinking that my one friend is coming and then these 2 show up and make themselves at home.  So,  of course, I had to ask.  Was it them that I had been texting with all week?  And of course it was.  My contacts had, somehow, got switched up.

No wonder my friend from Chattanooga was inviting me to the Blog Up in East Ridge.  Ha ha.  She had no idea what I was talking about.

And when I texted her (or so I thought) and asked about her being double booked, my other friend was puzzled, but came anyway.

We had a great time.  We laughed and talked and decided to do this again sometime.  I just wonder if I am the only person who this has ever happened to. Ha Ha!

Resolutions or Goals? Which do you set?


I used to sit down every year and write down all my resolutions for the year.  And always at the top of the list was to lose weight and exercise, which morphed into eat right and be more active.  Always, that was on my list.

Then my resolutions changed to goals.  Goals with tangible check points so that I could actually see progress and measure success or failure.

This year, I was so sick, I did neither.  But this morning, feeling actually human again, I had a couple of ideas that I will try this year.

  1. Put God first in my life.  I have definitely strayed away from God recently.  But as soon as I turn back to Him,  miracles begin to happen in my life.  Once again reaffirming to me that He is always there, I just have to turn to Him and ask and, hardest of all, accept His love and kindness.
  2. Take care of me.  I am guilty of taking care of everyone else before I take care of me.  And I have learned, over and over again, that I can’t take care of anyone else until I am able to take care of me.
  3. Put my family first.  In starting a new business this year, I know that I will have the tendency to put that first-above everything else.  I must, must, must put my kids first and not the business.  Even though this business is important to me, my kids must know that they come before the business every time.  I think it will be something as simple a cooking a meal each night and eating at the table instead of in front of the TV or computer.  Making that daily connection with them that we have neglected for quite some time will make a difference.
  4. In order to accomplish all of my goals this year, organization is going to be key. I think I will pull out that book that has been my “go to” organizational tool forever.  It’s called “The Family Manager’s Everyday Survival Guide” by Kathy Peel.  I have lived with this plan for years and years and when I actually follow the plan – it works!!    Basically, it is about compartmentalizing your life and prioritizing, breaking down huge goals in to manageable small bites that can be accomplished a little at a time.

Enough talk, now it is time for action!!

So, do you have resolutions or goals?  What are they?  Are they the same every year or do you like to change them up each year?  Are you like me and can’t even remember what you set as your goals last year? (ha ha)

Been Very Busy Lately


I am the type of person that becomes obsessed with an idea once it takes hold in my pea-brain.  That can be a good thing and that can be a bad thing.

I will follow through and research to the point of being ridiculous!  But once I am done researching and following through on my latest obsession, I know enough about the current topic to make an informed decision.

The bad thing is I obsess over the latest thing to the point of excluding all else in my life.  I leave other things to flounder and survive on their own while I chase down information on my latest object of desire.

What is the latest “thing” I am obsessing about, you ask?  Dog training.

I thought at the beginning of 2011 that I wanted to be a Style Consultant because I really like fashion and clothing.  I explored, researched, spent money on, and totally dove head first into that for the first 6 months of the year.  In the end, I discovered that I had spent way more than I ever intended on clothing I “just had to have” and had made zero on the adventure.

I discovered too that even though I really like clothing and fashion, I don’t want to make it my career or life.  It’s way too expensive for my income.  I think the biggest struggle I had with it is that it seemed a little superficial.

I really had to convince myself some days that clothing was really important to your self esteem and confidence.  More important than the War in Iraq or the homeless on the streets or the millions of people that are unemployed.  When the tornado hit my town, I struggled even more with the concept of fashion being really important to me.  I was thankful to just be alive and have my home in tact.  Clothing just didn’t seem all that important any more, but I pressed on with it anyway.

The last Image Workshop that I did, one of the ladies has been unemployed for over a year.  The only reason she has a home is because her grandparents left their home to her in their will.  She came to the workshop and listened to me talk about buying clothing and budgeting for it and how important your image is to getting a job.  Then, when they served lunch, she let it slip out that she had not eaten in 2 days.

That was it.  That was the end of it for me.  Yes, looking good and taking pride in your appearance is very important to your self esteem and confidence.  Yes, you should put effort into looking your best.  However, whether you are wearing the latest trend or a shirt that accentuates your small waist just doesn’t amount to a hill of beans if you can’t eat.

I realized right at that moment that I couldn’t talk myself into making this be more important that it really was.  My heart just was not in it anymore.

As you may know, I have 4 dogs.  I post pictures and talk about them all the time.  I have had dogs in my life all my life.  I put myself through a dog training program.  I have helped many people train their dogs.  I started a program here in Cleveland, TN at the local library for kids to build their reading skills by reading to dogs.  I have never struggled with whether dogs are important or not.  There is no question or ambiguity in my mind that they are very important and relevant.

To me, there is nothing more fun than teaching a dog a new trick or watching a dog’s owner learn how to communicate with their dog and form a stronger bond with that dog.

I have dreamed of having my own training center for years and years.  And I finally have the courage and confidence to take the steps necessary to make that dream come true.  It started off as just calling around to see what would happen.  I figured if I was met with any resistance then it wasn’t meant to be.  So far, there has not been one obstacle placed in my way.  Well, except my own self-doubt and fears of failure.  But as far as location, equipment, money and time – all have fallen into place without a hitch.

So, I am really looking forward to 2012!  I hope to finally be able to relax and enjoy my life by finally being where I am happy and satisfied.

Do you have any big plans for 2012?  Do you obsess over an idea like I do?  How do you manage everything?